“The List”

Finally participating in 5 Minute Friday again. The rules are: write for 5 minutes. No over-thinking; no over-editing. This week’s prompt is:


Ready? GO

“Oh, he’s married, so he’s off the table”, I joked at a restaurant with some friends.

“Man, you just make it so hard to set you up”, a friend joked back.

“No, no. Single. Loves Jesus. That’s not hard, right?” I responded.

After thinking for a moment, we both said, “yeah, yeah it is”, and then laughed.

The truth is, maybe I’m looking for a little more than just “Single & Loves Jesus”, though that’s pretty much where to start.

But, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have a list.
But that list is somewhere in the middle of 2 & a million traits (closer to 2 than a million, you’ll be happy to know).

Over the years, I’ve come to realize that people have to be realistic about what they’re looking for.

Our desired traits have to be a middle ground between “Breathing” & “Prince Charming”; our relationship expectations a middle ground between “hell on earth” & “perfect fairy tale”.

So, what’s on my list? I’ll share the gist:


You know, the important things. Beyond this, I have complete faith my Abba knows what I need/the relationship I’ve been praying for.

Did you have a “list”? If so, did your significant other match or exceed (or not quite)? Any encouragement as I continue to be patient in the waiting? Can’t wait to hear from you.

4 thoughts on ““The List”

  1. I totally had a list before I met my husband. I was very specific in all the aspects that I could think of (physical as well as spiritual) and God filled in the blanks. I’ll tell you what…my husband fit each and every thing. 🙂
    Dropping by from FMF. Have a nice weekend!


  2. Ahhh yes, this. I don’t think I ever quite made a list because, well, other than the obvious things (single, loves Jesus, not a jerk) I didn’t really know what specifics were musts and which were more in the category of “that would be nice.” The fun thing is my husband and I became friends first over things we loved and personalities that work well together, and the rest just happened naturally.

    BTW, I felt chronically single too, and got married shortly before turning 31. The right person is worth every minute waiting. You have the right perspective! 🙂

    Visiting from the FMF linkup! I’m #83. (http://www.jenroseyokel.com/post/155857451507/five-minute-friday-middle)

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    1. Thank you for stopping by and sending encouragement. Often I have my friends say, “well, I waited so long”, but they are my age and been married since we were 22-23, or they are younger than me. I usually feel more encouraged to hear it from those in similar situations to mine, so thank you for sharing with me! I trust God that he is totally worth the wait 🙂


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