Always my first question when:
- A Christian friend says she met someone.
- Someone offers to set me up (which is basically never)
What surprises me is when even fellow Christians tell me that I place too much emphasis on this, or expect too much in this area.
2 Corinthians 6:14 tells me not to be yoked to an unbeliever. Actually, even someone not on the same level as me. What’s more? This passage is actually about avoiding idolatry. How quickly what we choose to link to can become idolatry – leading us away from God’s purpose.
I know based on human nature, I’m at risk for putting my “him” above God. So, I definitely need a “him” who is completely committed to the Kingdom of Heaven, who will steer me back in that direction.
I believe life is best lived for Christ. So, I can’t have someone who doesn’t understand that part of my life – the biggest part of my life.
To hear other believers tell me I’m expecting “too much” or have too much emphasis on this, it’s disheartening. It saddens me greatly to know that they feel that there are so few of us, and that it’s too great of an expectation in todays world.
Because, I really feel we can all expect it, and should celebrate it when we find it.
A partner who is passionate about the Will of God is a beautiful thing. And, being equally yoked is the only way to really make it work. Otherwise, it becomes a huge hurdle for everyone involved.
Do I have to have someone who likes country music, reading, and rainy weather? Probably not. These qualities would be a bonus, but not a necessity for a happy life.
Do I have to have a man dedicated to Christ? ABSOLUTELY. Because, it’s the biggest part of my life. Faith & ministry; I can’t not share those things.
You see, I’d rather serve God alone and single, than try to serve God alone in a relationship.
Do I want to be a wife and a mom? Yes. With the depths of my heart I do.
But, I trust that my Abba knows this. So, I trust He is helping me become the best wife & mom I can be one day –
To one of His sons, a like-minded man who is equally prepared & prayed up (maybe even more so).
The question: “does he/she love Jesus?” should never be an obsolete question when discussing relationships – it should be the most important.
So, does he love Jesus?
If the answer is no, or maybe, or I don’t know, then, move along. I’m not the one.
If the answer is yes; then, may God guide you rightly.
Do you think it is expecting too much to expect someone dedicated to Christ? Let me know your thoughts below.
If you, like me, are waiting for a God-loving man or woman, let me know below. I will add you to my prayer list & we can encourage one another. And, as we wait, enjoy this post just for my future “him” 🙂
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Thanks Candice. It’s true. Never let the #1 important standard go when finding the one who will be with you until death. Sometimes it’s hard because I just want to find someone, but I won’t be happy if he doesn’t love my first love Jesus Christ.
It can be hard. Especially for those of us who have a deep desire to build a life and family with someone, and we see our younger siblings may get there before us. But, the fact is, if it’s not in God’s time, with someone as dedicated to Him as we are, we will be miserable. We will be held back from our purpose. And, we will be harder for us to be all that God has designed us to be.