Hard Days Happen

Handling difficult moments on the way to your dreams

Today has been a ridiculously hard day. Some of it is the heat – my chronic illness self cannot handle it. Some of it is the migraine. Some of it is that being a therapist is just emotionally heavy sometimes. Some of it is the fact that life sometimes just piles on. Some of it is my reactions to everything – and perhaps there is some repair work that will need to happen tomorrow.

The thing we should talk about more is that there is a lot of emphasis in today’s world to make things easy. To avoid friction. To hope that life will find it’s way to easy.

Life can’t always be easy, though. And we have to create the world we want to live in. That doesn’t mean everything will be perfect, though.

I have flexibility and freedom, and I am so thankful for that. I also have days like today that knock me on my butt.

What I’ve learned, though, is that balance is more about rhythm and what we do with those hard days. Burnout recovery isn’t about avoidance of the hard days, it’s about how we recover from the hard days. Confidence is not about never messing up, it’s about what we do and how we learn and grow in the mess ups. And relational stability isn’t about never having a hard time, it’s about how we repair in the hard times.

This is why community and mentorship matter. When we do this all alone, things get infinitely harder.

I went through years of my own therapy. I work with a coach now in business, and I have a peer mastermind group of like-minded ADHD business friends who understand and talk each other through days and seasons like this.

Still, on days like this, I would typically shy away from showing up because I feel like to coach I have to have it “all together,” which is a terrible way to think of things. Bad days are guaranteed. What’s not guaranteed is how easily we will bounce back from that and how well we will pick back up and keep going.

Many of us struggle with how to do that. How long do we stay down. Pushing through isn’t the answer, and giving up isn’t the answer.

For me? For today’s troubles? I will get some sleep after an evening of rest, and tomorrow, I’ll wake up to face it all again. Stronger and ready to move forward. Ready for repair and healing.

For tomorrow’s troubles? I’ll take them in season as they come, knowing there will be much more good in between.

Until Next Time,
Candice